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Am I the Asshole?

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Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole!

Submissions should be descriptions of recent conflicts you've had. Describe the event and share it with us! It's important that you describe both sides in detail.

After 24 hours the post will be assigned a flair. The flair will be decided by the top comment of the post. OPs should expect questions and should answer them within the 24 hour period. If OP is obviously not the asshole and wants validation, the post will be removed.

Disclaimer: The flair given means you are the asshole or not the asshole in the particular situation, not in life!

Update! This sub will now accept hypothetical questions in addition to stories of real conflict. These submissions must start with "[WIBTA]". For more info, read this post on the idea. ___


  • Upvote posts that are appropriate for this sub or that you think make for an interesting discussion. PLEASE DO NOT downvote if you think OP is an asshole, go to the comments section and call him an asshole like a civilized person.

  • No abuse. Accept whatever judgement befalls you, move on.

  • DO NOT delete your submission once a discussion has begun, even if it's not going well for you. The point to this sub is to start discussions that people will want to check back in on to see what consensus was reached. If you erase a discussion because you don't like the way it's going, that is extremely frustrating to everyone who has already taken an interest in the topic. We encourage submitters to use throwaways to maintain their privacy, but deleting a discussion is unacceptable. Violators will be banned.

  • If you post a comment, make sure you provide a judgement. (asshole, not the asshole etc.)

  • Upvote whatever comment you think gives the correct status.

  • Paragraphs are good; block text walls are bad. Please take the time to format and punctuate your post reasonably so our subscribers will actually want to read it.

Normal Rediquette applies


Filters || ---|--- Assholes| Not-assholes


If a community member distinguishes themselves in their innate ability to judge people on their assholliness, they will be awarded a flair. These flairs, and their respective Top Comment prerequisites, are:

  • Asshole Enthusiast 2

  • Certified Proctologist 5

  • Colo-rectal Surgeon 15

If you think you have all the requirements to obtain a flair, message the mods with links to the posts, and we'll assign it when it's verified!

Special thanks to /u/Princess_sarcasmo/ for our sub's fantastic new snoo!

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