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This sub is aimed at people either (1) in an affair or (2) thinking about affairs. The goal is to offer a place for those thinking or pursuing this path can talk about all aspects in an open setting.
Anonymity is important, throwaway accounts are encouraged (just be patient if your initial submission is stuck in the spam queue, we promise to release it and if it isn't, contact the moderators).
We prefer lax moderation, so rules will be added as needed, but the main rule is simple: keep it respectful, insults will not be tolerated.
Don't let yourself whitewash the potentially catastrophic results that having an affair can have on spouses, partners, kids, family, friends, etc. This is the path of meifumado (hell): deception, lies, abused trust, and all sorts of other sins abound. The moral predicament isn't something everyone can handle, probably for good reason.
- Thinking about going outside your relationship? Practical suggestions
- Need to get rid of a post?
- "Who can I date?" - Three approaches
- Tips for secrecy
- For the single, female, lovestruck AP
- How to book a hotel/motel
AM Strategy Guides
(NOTE: though AM has imploded, the techniques apply to most sites)
/r/adultery is not a r4r sub!
If you're looking to meet people, try /r/naughtyfromneglect, or go the old-fashioned route. Posts like "[m4w] Anyone looking for an AP in NY?" will be removed. The purpose of this sub is to give people an outlet to talk and discuss issues, not provide for a hook-up outlet.
Commonly Used Acronyms:
- AP: affair partner
- pAP: potential affair partner
- LDAP: long distance affair partner
- SO: significant other
- MM: married man
- NRE: new relationship energy
- NSA: no strings attached
- FWB: friends with benefits
- AM: AshleyMadison.com
- CL: craigslist
- OKC: OkCupid
- AFF: AdultFriendFinder
- PoF: PlentyofFish