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Surviving Infidelity

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Welcome to the club that no one should ever have to join.

If you're here, it's because you are surviving, or have survived, infidelity in a relationship that you thought was life-long. This is a safe place to give support and guidance to each other.

Infidelity is one of the most painful experiences you will ever have to survive. Regardless of your decision to stay or to go, you will have to overcome a tremendous amount of pain and emotional scarring.

You can do it. And we're here to help.

Read the Surviving Infidelity Wiki before posting!

If you are a cheater looking for advice, please read this section of the wiki first.

Check out our list of common abbreviations and terms here.


For a more detailed explanation of our sub rules and guidelines, please see this section of our wiki before posting.

Long term relationships

This is a support sub for people in long term relationships or life partnerships, normally over one year.


Be respectful of each other and keep your comments supportive. Avoid rude, unkind and unhelpful comments.


Personal attacks, abuse, bigotry, misogyny, misandry, racism and encouraging violence are not tolerated in this sub. This includes on the sub and through private message.

Dismissive/Unhelpful Advice

Avoid comments that just tell a poster to leave their partner without any deeper advice.


Unsolicited advertising and spam will be removed. Recruiting or pushing agendas for other reddit subs is not acceptable here.


Posts poking fun at, insulting, or belittling users who have been cheated on are not acceptable here. Off topic posts may be removed. Posts stirring up drama will be removed.


People who have cheated on their partners are welcome here if they genuinely want to ask for advice and support on rebuilding their relationships.

This isn't an appropriate sub to talk about the difficulties of being a cheater, to post about infidelity experiences or complain about consequences of cheating.

If your post creates a lot of conflict it may be removed in order to keep the sub on topic and supportive.

Targeted/Gendered slurs

It's not acceptable to target people of any specific gender, race, sexual preference, etc.

Discriminatory and sexist slurs will be removed, users who continually target others in their comments/posts will be banned.

Personal information

Posting of personal information, identifying photos, or any kind of doxxing will result in an immediate ban.

Encouraging abuse/hate/violence/revenge

Encouraging this kind of behaviour and sentiment is not acceptable in this sub. Encouraging others to commit violence or illegal acts in revenge will result in an immediate ban. Posts about revenge are not suitable for this sub and will be removed.


See our wiki for information on user flair and post flair.


Related subreddits:

  • /r/AsOneAfterInfidelity - for people working on reconciliation
  • /r/survivingmyinfidelity - for people who have cheated
  • /r/relationships
  • /r/relationship_advice
  • /r/infidelity
  • /r/marriedsex
  • /r/marriage
  • /r/divorce
  • /r/ExNoContact
  • /r/breakups

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